Confidence is essential to survival. If you’re a man, you can’t even attract a mate without it, as women (and even gay men) are attracted to tenacity. There are times, however, when a devastating or unexpected loss can sap you of your poise. If you’re down, here’s how to get confidence back into your system so you’re ready to take on the world again.
自信是生存的根本，要是一個(gè)男人，要是沒(méi)有自信，甚至沒(méi)辦法吸引異性，因?yàn)榕裕ㄉ踔潦峭詰伲┩ǔ６紩?huì)被別人那種頑強(qiáng)的精神所吸引。但是，有時(shí)候，生活中一些極具殺傷力的，毫無(wú)征兆的東西的失去也會(huì)削弱我們自信心。要是你低沉了，這里提供了一些讓你重拾自信的方法，讓你重歸正常的生活。
Find Your Comfort Zone 找到你自己的安樂(lè)窩
Everyone has a comfort zone, whether it’s food, music, art, a favorite book, movie, TV show, a specific geographic location or group of people. Whatever it is that makes you feel comfortable, get into that zone. You’re not there to hide from your problems or dwell on them. You’re there to recharge; just like your muscles and mind need time to recharge, so does your mood. Take a staycation in your comfort zone to regain your composure.
每個(gè)人都有一個(gè)安樂(lè)窩，不管是否是食物、音樂(lè)、藝術(shù)、一本喜歡的書(shū)、電影、電視節(jié)目、一個(gè)特殊的地方或者是那樣的一些人。不管是什么讓你感覺(jué)到舒坦，走到你的安樂(lè)窩里去吧。在這里你不會(huì)隱藏你的問(wèn)題，不會(huì)任其發(fā)展。在這里你可以讓自己獲得新生，就像你的身體，你的心靈需要時(shí)間來(lái)自我修復(fù)，你的心情也是需要的。在你的安樂(lè)窩里平靜自己吧。
Change Your Thoughts 改變你的思維
Actively make a conscious decision to change your thought processes. Every time you doubt yourself, counter those thoughts with ways you can overcome. Remember most of your problems are in your head. That’s not to say they don’t exist – merely that you’re allowing them to affect you. Stand up to and for yourself, and you’ll learn ways to stand up to and for everyone else.
改變你的思維過(guò)程就從積極主動(dòng)地做出最理性的決定開(kāi)始吧。每次都懷疑自己，列舉一下這些能夠戰(zhàn)勝自己的方式吧。記住，你大部分的問(wèn)題都不在于你的腦袋。那也并不是誰(shuí)他們不存在---僅僅是因?yàn)槟阕屵@些問(wèn)題在影響你。站起來(lái)，為了你自己，然后你會(huì)學(xué)著站起來(lái)，為了別人。
Smile Like You Mean It 發(fā)自內(nèi)心的微笑
A smile goes a long way. Even if you’re not fully sure of yourself, you’ll exude a sureness that encourages people to perceive you as a confident person. You’ll be seen as a leader rather than a follower, and things will be more likely to go your way. The media portrays Special Forces soldiers as killing machines, but one of their most used weapons is a friendly smile. Diplomacy is strong, so put a smile on your face, and make the world a better place.
微笑有很長(zhǎng)的一段路要走。即使不相信你自己，你會(huì)散發(fā)出一種鼓舞人心的自信，讓人認(rèn)為你是個(gè)自信的人。你會(huì)被認(rèn)為是一個(gè)領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者而非一個(gè)追隨者，事情也可能會(huì)按著你所期望的方向發(fā)展。媒體將特種兵描繪成一種殺人的機(jī)器，但是最致命的“武器”都還只是一個(gè)友好的微笑。外交很重要，但是面帶微笑也能讓世界變得更美好。
Don’t Slouch! 切忌懶散
Your posture and the way you carry yourself goes a long way in determining your appearance. If you’re slouched over, people assume you’re weaker. This is how nature works – every plant and animal species on this planet understands survival of the fittest, and you need to look like you’re fit. Make an effort to sit up and stand up straight and tall.
你的姿勢(shì)，你穿衣打扮的方式都會(huì)決定你的外在形象。要是你穿得很邋遢，人們會(huì)認(rèn)為你就是個(gè)弱者。這就是自然法則--在這個(gè)星球上的植物、動(dòng)物都明白的道理，你也需要讓自己看起來(lái)不錯(cuò)。盡力坐好，站直，站得高。
Take Baby Steps 慢慢來(lái)
Everything happens in steps. Don’t get discouraged if there’s no magical change that suddenly makes you confident. Focus on your path, and understand it’ll take baby steps to get where you want. You’ll soon be taking baby steps from confidence to full-on success in life.
每件事的發(fā)生發(fā)展都不是一蹴而就的。要是沒(méi)有發(fā)生什么奇跡讓你獲得自信也不要?dú)怵H?？纯茨氵x擇的道路，明白事情會(huì)按著你預(yù)期的那樣一步一步的發(fā)展。從自信到大獲全勝你的一步一步的慢慢來(lái)。
Clean Yourself Up 整理好自己
Cleanliness is close to godliness (or so I’ve heard). Hygiene is vital to your confidence – it’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re stained, sweaty and smelly. No matter what your circumstances in life are, do your best to stay clean, as it’s the key to your confidence.
干凈接近于虔誠(chéng)。干凈是獲得自信的關(guān)鍵---臟兮兮、汗涔涔、臭熏熏的時(shí)候是不大可能會(huì)很自信的。不管是在哪種情況下，盡力讓自己保持干凈清爽，因?yàn)檫@是自信的關(guān)鍵。
Face Your Fears 面對(duì)自己的恐懼
Everyone has a list of fears and phobias, although many don’t want to admit it. I’m afraid of snakes, spiders, heights, loss of control, drowning, the dark, other people, and just about everything under the sun. I’m even afraid of the sun since I have moles and have a high melanoma risk. These are natural fears that everyone has on some level or another – it’s a fear of death and the unknown. Face at least one of your fears. When you survive, you’ll be that much more confident.
也許都不愿意承認(rèn)，但是很多人都有害怕的東西。我就怕蛇、怕蜘蛛、恐高、害怕不能自控、害怕溺水、怕黑、也害怕一些人、似乎害怕在陽(yáng)光下的一切。自從長(zhǎng)斑，知道容易得黑色素瘤之后，我甚至還害怕陽(yáng)光。這是很正常的，每個(gè)人都會(huì)有這樣那樣的恐懼----害怕死亡、害怕一切未知的東西。最起碼要正視你的恐懼。當(dāng)你戰(zhàn)勝了你的恐懼之后，你會(huì)更加的自信。
Define Yourself 定義自己
You are your present choices. Your past decisions and future aspirations determine how your present choices are perceived, but you are your present choices. Learn how to define yourself. Set your rules and boundaries and follow them. These are your morals and ethics, and they’re the foundation of who you are. Never forget that.
你可以決定當(dāng)下。你的過(guò)去，你對(duì)未來(lái)的期望會(huì)決定你目前的選擇，但是你可以決定現(xiàn)在要怎么做。學(xué)著如何定義自己。給自己制定規(guī)則，然后按著自己的規(guī)定來(lái)做。這是你的倫理道德原則，他們能夠決定你是怎樣的一個(gè)人。不要忘記。
Live In The Present 活在當(dāng)下
Learn to appreciate everything around you. By practicing gratitude, you’ll change your perspective. Instead of being upset about losing an important client or failing a test, you’ll be grateful for the air you breathe, the water you drink, the food you eat, and the people you love. Focus on the now, because it’s all you truly have.
學(xué)會(huì)珍惜你目前擁有的一切。學(xué)著感激，你的視角也會(huì)有所改變。與其因?yàn)槭チ艘晃恢匾目蛻簟⒏阍伊艘淮慰荚嚩魫灒€不如感激你現(xiàn)在還有空氣可以呼吸，還有誰(shuí)可以喝、還有食物可以吃、還有你愛(ài)的人。關(guān)注現(xiàn)在，因?yàn)檫@是你真正擁有的。
