這篇文章有點(diǎn)雞湯，是我以前寫(xiě)的，發(fā)在我的領(lǐng)英賬號(hào)，現(xiàn)在讀著，覺(jué)得都還是心里想說(shuō)的話(huà)。
英文版在后面。
沿著夢(mèng)想和現(xiàn)實(shí)打造快樂(lè)
那天讀到領(lǐng)英CEO Jeff Weiner 的一篇文章“最佳工作伙伴的三大品質(zhì)”，產(chǎn)生了一些共鳴。他說(shuō)的三大品質(zhì)分別是：第一，具有遠(yuǎn)大夢(mèng)想，第二，能把狗屁工作干完，第三，懂得如何制造樂(lè)趣。我當(dāng)時(shí)就想他說(shuō)到點(diǎn)了。不過(guò)又強(qiáng)烈感到一個(gè)人要同時(shí)具有并保持這三種品質(zhì)是件極其不容易的事情。一般人做不到。
我相信我的同齡人里(應(yīng)該是這里很多讀者的父母或叔叔阿姨輩吧），就是那些60后甚至70后的人，小時(shí)候稍微經(jīng)歷或感受過(guò)真正的貧窮，在成年之前又因改革開(kāi)放的春風(fēng)帶來(lái)了無(wú)限希望和遐想，所以一般都曾有過(guò)熱血沸騰的時(shí)候，都曾經(jīng)胸懷遠(yuǎn)大夢(mèng)想。
譬如我自己，小時(shí)候家里窮，那時(shí)的夢(mèng)想，大多與吃飯和脫貧有關(guān)。沒(méi)有很多選擇時(shí)，幾乎任何能吃的東西都很美味。后來(lái)家里跟多數(shù)國(guó)民一樣解決了溫飽問(wèn)題，便漸漸發(fā)現(xiàn)有了一些別的夢(mèng)想。上學(xué)時(shí)每個(gè)月我都會(huì)攢出一點(diǎn)小錢(qián)去郵局買(mǎi)雜志，或者新華書(shū)店買(mǎi)書(shū)。幾十年前我在遙遠(yuǎn)小城里買(mǎi)書(shū)和看書(shū)是我當(dāng)年的現(xiàn)實(shí)。雜志和書(shū)本上展示的外面的世界就成了我多年心中夢(mèng)想的源泉。
我記得小時(shí)候給自己寫(xiě)了一張單子，上面列了這輩子想要干的事情。現(xiàn)在這張單子已經(jīng)不見(jiàn)蹤影，但我還記得一二。我的夢(mèng)想包括周游世界，探險(xiǎn)漂流，飽讀詩(shī)書(shū)，會(huì)多國(guó)語(yǔ)言，出書(shū)原創(chuàng)加翻譯，發(fā)明創(chuàng)造，拯救靈魂，成家立業(yè)，簡(jiǎn)直包羅萬(wàn)象，無(wú)所不有。且所有夢(mèng)想都有一個(gè)共性：雖然我很熱愛(ài)我的家和我美麗的小城，但這些夢(mèng)想都似乎需要離開(kāi)家鄉(xiāng)才能實(shí)現(xiàn)。
現(xiàn)在想想，那時(shí)的我，可能和很多人一樣，身體和心靈游離于小城和世界的邊緣，尋覓于夢(mèng)想和現(xiàn)實(shí)之間，每天都很快樂(lè)，也很充實(shí)，因?yàn)閴?mèng)想雖然遙不可及，但覺(jué)有光陰在手，一切都是可能。
隨著時(shí)間的流逝，我們當(dāng)中有些人的有些夢(mèng)想漸成現(xiàn)實(shí)，這時(shí)很可能又引發(fā)新的夢(mèng)想，產(chǎn)生新的追求和動(dòng)力。而多數(shù)人的多數(shù)夢(mèng)想?yún)s似乎離我們?cè)絹?lái)越遠(yuǎn)，這樣極可能還會(huì)讓我們的現(xiàn)實(shí)變得沉重，失去生活的激情。我們也容易因此而頹廢厭倦悲觀不滿(mǎn)，一發(fā)不可收拾。怎樣讓我們的夢(mèng)想成為一種動(dòng)力，而不變作壓力，怎樣讓我們的現(xiàn)實(shí)給我們支撐，而不做累贅，這都是我們可以思考的問(wèn)題。
我們的人生就像是一場(chǎng)現(xiàn)實(shí)與夢(mèng)想的競(jìng)走。當(dāng)夢(mèng)想和現(xiàn)實(shí)差距拉開(kāi)，時(shí)光不再，心情不復(fù)，追求快樂(lè)似乎比追求夢(mèng)想更不容易。但我們只有不斷完善自己，不斷讓一些夢(mèng)想變成現(xiàn)實(shí)，并懂得感受快樂(lè)的過(guò)程，我們才能不斷在變化和進(jìn)取中求得心靈的平衡，再產(chǎn)生新的夢(mèng)想，形成新的正能量，創(chuàng)造新的夢(mèng)想中的現(xiàn)實(shí)，領(lǐng)悟這場(chǎng)競(jìng)走本身的美麗。
所以我感到Jeff Weiner 的文章一下?lián)糁幸ΑＴS多成功關(guān)鍵就在于不斷追求夢(mèng)想，創(chuàng)造現(xiàn)實(shí)，并懂得對(duì)過(guò)程的享受。夢(mèng)想不一定要驚天動(dòng)地，但凡凝聽(tīng)自己的心事，從每天的屁事做起，就是很好的起點(diǎn)。
您說(shuō)呢？我很想聽(tīng)到您的故事和體會(huì)，想知道您是怎樣沿著夢(mèng)想和現(xiàn)實(shí)打造和發(fā)現(xiàn)幸福！
Discovering Happiness along Dreams and Reality
LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner's insightful article “The Three Qualities of People I Most Enjoy Working With”made me ponder and reflect. The three qualities he named are: Dream Big; Get Shit Done; Know How to Have Fun. I thought to myself, EXACTLY!
At the same time, I understand how hard it is for any ordinary person to possess these three qualities and even harder, to MAINTAIN them throughout his life time.
I can’t speak for all but I am sure that many people with a similar background as mine grew up with big dreams. Being born in the late 60s or 70s in China, after tasting real poverty and hunger to various degrees, we were fortunate enough to enter our formative years with bright hope as the country began its journey of economic reform leading to today’s boom. We were never short of big dreams.
When I was little and starving, most of my dreams had to do with food, more food and better food. Eventually as my stomach was satisfied, my eyes and soul began to wander away from what was in front of me. I wanted more. I quested for the reason of my being, and beyond the existence of my little town.
I began to buy books and magazines to read about the outside world. Going to the library and book stores was part of my reality, it gave me calm. The books themselves were also part of my reality, they gave me thoughts and dreams, they made me fly.
I remember making myself a long to-do list. The list itself is nowhere to be found. But I memorized a few things. They included traveling the world, conquering Mount Everest, sailing across the Atlantic Ocean, publishing in multiple languages, inventing revolutionary things, rescuing souls… raising family and children. All these dreams were based on one hypothesis: I would go far away from home.
Back then I was a chubby little girl that only spoke a dialect that nobody outside of my hometown understood. I did not know how to swim or bike or do anything athletic. (I am still a bad swimmer, biker and bad at any sports. Period.) I never understood how electricity worked. (I still don’t.) And I only saw the first black and white television at about 10. None of these seemed to matter. I was not confined in my reality. The books gave me wings.
In reflection, like many people of my time, living on the edge of a small town and the big world, rambling between plain reality and big dreams, I felt happy and fulfilled. My dreams seemed far away, but I felt I had time. Time would give me anything I dared.
As time goes by, as I write tonight, I sigh with a glad tear. I tear for all the dreams that did not come true. Yet I allow gladness and pride to take charge of my emotions, for I realize how happy I am to have dreamed, and am still capable of dreaming while appreciating my day to day reality, of, yes, getting shit done, creating impact of no matter how small, on my family and immediate surroundings.
When dreams and reality set apart, time no longer, our ambitions wane, our heart may feel heavier every day. We may feel our dreams have given way to pettiness and survival. We may feel happiness is leaving us alone just like dreams may have done. We may feel powerless because of physical and emotional exhaustion. We may give in.
But don’t. Don’t give in. No matter how difficult, do not let reality chain our soul. Do not let dreams lose wings. Dreams, big or small, they do not anchor in the air. They anchor in our beliefs, in our daily actions, in “getting shit done.” And if we can every single day form the habit of “getting shit done,”and still spend a few minutes searching our dreams, we will eventually be able to “connect the needed dots” to our big dreams. And hopefully we will discover happiness and create fun, along the way.
Since I made my to-do list, I have crossed off quite a few dreams. But I added some more and I am still having fun going after them.
How about you? We can start practicing this tomorrow: Discovering happiness along our dreams and reality.
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2014年9月
