今日清晨聽了這篇演講，我想明白了三件事情，也就是這篇演講的中心內容，po出來和大家分享。

main idea：

First,I told Emma forget about having identity crisis and get some identity capital.By get identity capital,I mean do something that add your value to who you are.

（學習知識來增加自己的資本，而不是整天自怨自艾什么都不做）

Second,?I told Emma that urban tribe is overrated.New things come from what are called our weak ties,our friends of friends of friends.

（不要高估你的朋友圈，新事物來自我們所謂的弱關系，朋友的朋友）

Last but not least,I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want,rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happen to be choosing you.

（選擇你的家庭是有意識地去選擇你想要的人和事，而不是為了應付或者消磨時光，才和一個正好選擇你的人在一起。）

To sum up,Thrity is not the new 20,so claim your adulthood,get some identity capital,use your weak ties,pick your family.

詞匯：

psychotherapy (n) ?精神療法 心理診療?

psychology (n) 心理學 心理 心理特點

psychologist (n) 心理學家

slouchy (adj) 懶散的 無精打采的 無力地下垂的

arsonist (n) 縱火犯

twentysomethings (n) 二十幾歲的人

knucklehead (n) 呆笨沒有思想的人

benign (adj) 仁慈的 親切的 有利的 善意的?

sociologist (n) 社會學家?

neurologist (n) 神經學家

fertility (n) 繁殖力 土地肥沃

transformative (adj) 有改革能力的，變化的，變形的

spurt (v) 噴射 噴出

trivialize (v) 使平凡，使......成為瑣碎

flip (v)為作出決定而擲硬幣 輕拋 輕彈 快速翻動書頁等

? ? ? (n)用鞭子輕抽 瀏覽 翻轉

? ? ? (adj)無禮的 魯莽的 油腔滑調的?

stake (n) 樁 棍子 火刑 賭金 賭注 風險 危險

? ? ? ? ? (adj)把......押下打賭 拿......冒險?

incompatible (adj) 不能和諧共處的 不相容的 矛盾的

? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? (n) 互不相容的人或事物

millennial (adj) 一千年的 千禧年的 美滿的 太平盛世的

hysterical (adj) 歇斯底里的 情緒異常波動的

wreck (n) 失事 遇難 船難事故 失事的船 殘骸?

procrastination (n) 延遲 耽擱?

句子

Work happened later,marriage happened later,Kid happened later,even death happened later.

Twentysomethings like Alex and I had noting but time.

That made Alex's 20s development sweet spot,and we were sitting there blowing it.

It's time your ordinary,day-to-day life has inordinate impact on who you will become.

Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun,but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up,so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was cloest chair to me at 30.

Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-posted job. It's not cheating. It's the science of how information spreads.

? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?我希望我每一天的生活都有意義。