2.14情人節(jié)剛過去不久，而我依然單身。已經(jīng)大概有一個月沒有學習《天天用英語》，正好碰到這個關于愛情系列，因此借此機會重新開始用起來，另一個更為重要目的，就是為了初步建立自己愛情觀，至少播下一顆種子。
愛情
? ?Love is life's greatest blessing.
As EBB is reported to have said to her husband RB:
? ? I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
? ? I love you not only for what have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
? ? I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
positive psychology of Harvard
Relationships--close, intimate relationships, whether it's with lovers, whether it's with family members, whether it's with close soul mates, friends, is No.1 predictor of happiness.
愛情的幸福度與什么相關
財富和相貌能增加戀愛的幾率，但是跟幸福的愛情生活基本沒有什么關系；擇偶的三個更優(yōu)的選擇：個性合適、感情連接的方式、行為模式
這跟笑來老師選擇伴侶時候給的建議如出一轍：
尋找同級別的操作系統(tǒng)
要升級就大家一塊兒升級
七年之癢
七年之癢的科學依據(jù)：喜愛程度每年遞減3%；性吸引力每年遞減8%
笑來老師的解釋：
七年就是一輩子，一輩子都過去了，下輩子還要過同樣的生活，多膩歪啊。
笑來老師給的解決方法，還是上面提到的方法：
所以，兩個人中，至少要有一個人升級，最好先升級的那個能幫助另一個也升級…… 升級之后，就是另外一個天地，另外一番光景，開心都開心不過來呢，哪兒有功夫雞毛蒜皮？
共同創(chuàng)建協(xié)議，
共同遵守協(xié)議，
共同升級協(xié)議……
solutions of positive psychology
First, that relationship is about hard work. If you want to thrive at work, you need to work hard; if you want to thrive in a relationship, you need to invest.
Second, we'll talk about how to invest. That the best relationships are ones that create high levels of intimacy that get to know one another in a deeper level. In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don't just "get along"--they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.
Third, the best relationships are not, relationships that devoid of conflict.
And finally it is about appreciating the positive. Because when we appreciate the good, the good appreciates, whether in ourselves or in others.
關于愛的能力的具體方法描述，一定要回去重新學習Tal Ben的positive psychology.
我的心愿
祝福自己在不久的將來找到自己心愛的人，而現(xiàn)在，持續(xù)學習，不斷進步。
To be a better man.
