Chapter 8 The Importance of Saying No 2018-01-31

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson

PART 1 Expressions

1. Armed with this grandiose sense of connectivity to the world, I bounced back and forth across countries and oceans in a game of global hopscotch that lasted over five years.

grandiose: [?gr?ndi??s] grandiose plans sound very important or impressive, but are not practical 華而不實的;不切實際的

grandiose scheme/ plan/ idea etc

Not one of Kim's grandiose plans has even begun.


2. There was nothing combative about the way she said it; it was spoken as if it were some mundane fact—like the quality of the weather that day, or her shoe size—but I was still shocked.

combative: [?k?mb?t?v] ready and willing to fight or argue 好斗的;斗志昂揚的

Congress is in a combative mood.

combat: (n./v.) 斗爭;戰斗


3. But avoiding rejection gives us short-term pleasure by making us rudderless and directionless in the long term.

rudder: 船舵

rudderless: without someone to lead you or give you an aim or direction

a company left rudderless by the resignation of its CEO


4. He then totally loses his marbles and he commits suicide, thinking he’s going to be with her in the afterlife or some shit.

marble: (n.) 大理石;彈珠

lose one's marbles: informal, go crazy


5. I know: that makes me sound like such a downer. Seriously, what kind of guy shits on romantic love? But hear me out.

downer: a person or situation that stops you feeling happy

The weather was a bit of a downer.

be on a downer: to be sad or experiencing a series of sad events

What's up with Ruth? She's been on a downer all week.


PART 2 Sentences

The truth is, there are healthy forms of love and unhealthy forms of love. Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other—in other words, they’re using each other as an escape. Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing their own problems with each other’s support.


The mark of an unhealthy relationship is two people who try to solve each other’s problems in order to feel good about themselves. Rather, a healthy relationship is when two people solve their own problems in order to feel good about each other. The setting of proper boundaries doesn’t mean you can’t help or support your partner or be helped and supported yourself. You both should support each other. But only because you choose to support and be supported. Not because you feel obligated or entitled.

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