在日常生活中,我們常常會(huì)有機(jī)會(huì)遇見(jiàn)native speakers,想去(lian)搭(kou)訕(yu)的小伙伴們,腦海中是不是立即開(kāi)始搜索英語(yǔ)課本里學(xué)過(guò)的所有搭訕的開(kāi)場(chǎng)白?
“What’s your name?
How old are you?
What do you do?
How long have you been in China?”
當(dāng)你使出渾身解數(shù)把自己背過(guò)的句子一股腦說(shuō)出來(lái)時(shí),外國(guó)友人是否會(huì)露出謎之微笑?
不同的地方、不同年齡的中國(guó)人,為什么老問(wèn)我同樣的問(wèn)題?
我是又被當(dāng)成練習(xí)工具了嗎?
想搭訕老外,關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是找到和對(duì)方交流的理由。你和外國(guó)友人打招呼的理由可能很簡(jiǎn)單:練習(xí)口語(yǔ)或者想交朋友。但你是否想過(guò):老外和你交流的理由又是什么呢?如果你沒(méi)有一個(gè)雙贏的理由,對(duì)方可能就會(huì)有被利用的感覺(jué)。對(duì)方可能也愿意跟你交流,但結(jié)果往往不會(huì)太好。
為了大家共同的福利,下面小編將介紹一個(gè)實(shí)用又接地氣的老外搭訕大法:3C法則。所謂3C,即Care,Compliment,Comment。
Care
關(guān)心是最簡(jiǎn)單常見(jiàn)的搭訕?lè)绞剑驗(yàn)榇蠹叶疾粫?huì)拒絕別人的關(guān)心。在表達(dá)關(guān)心時(shí),要大方得體,既不要顯得太刻意,也不要過(guò)于殷勤,以免對(duì)方曲解了你的用意。大多數(shù)時(shí)候,外國(guó)友人都會(huì)很樂(lè)意地接受熱情好客的中國(guó)人提出的幫助。
此原則適用的場(chǎng)景和開(kāi)場(chǎng)白(opener)如下:
他正在看地鐵地圖
Excuse me! Can I help you find your stop?
他們嘗試點(diǎn)餐,但服務(wù)員不會(huì)英語(yǔ)
Excuse me! Could I help you order something?
她站在街上,看上去迷路了
Excuse me! Could I help you find something?
他在派對(duì)上,你剛好想要去拿飲料
I’m going to get another drink. Do you
want anything?
他在和別人交流,但存在語(yǔ)言障礙
Hi! Could I help you translate?
她手上拿了很多東西
Excuse me, could I help you with that?
Compliment
贊美是一種對(duì)觀察力要求較高的搭訕?lè)绞剑瑫r(shí)成功率也相對(duì)較高,因?yàn)楸毁澝赖娜送凶孕牛哺敢馊シ窒怼Y澝乐饕腥齻€(gè)步驟:Notice(觀察),Compliment(贊美),Ask(提問(wèn))。首先,觀察可以贊美的點(diǎn),其次,用一句話(huà)表達(dá)自己的贊美。最后,提一個(gè)相關(guān)問(wèn)題,打開(kāi)話(huà)匣子。
在提問(wèn)時(shí),可以參考使用一些禮貌性的用語(yǔ):
“May I ask...
Could I ask...
Would you mind if I ask...”
此原則適用的場(chǎng)景和開(kāi)場(chǎng)白(opener)如下:
他穿了一雙有特色的鞋子
Wow, I really like your shoes! Where did you get them?
她穿了一件漂亮的裙子
I just love that dress! Did you buy it in China?
他在用很酷的相機(jī)拍照
That's a cool camera. ?Are you a professional?
她的頭發(fā)又長(zhǎng)又卷
Sorry to bother you, but I really like your hair! Do you do it yourself?
他正在看一本你了解的書(shū)
Oh! Excuse me. That’s a really great book!May I ask, what do you think of it?
他說(shuō)了一些中文
Excuse me, I just heard you speaking Chinese. It’s pretty good! Could I ask, how long have you been in China?
Comment
評(píng)論是一種相對(duì)較難的高級(jí)搭訕?lè)绞健Tu(píng)論時(shí),切忌針對(duì)“人”,而是評(píng)論周?chē)沫h(huán)境或者正在發(fā)生有趣的事情。評(píng)論時(shí),可以用眼神溝通,向說(shuō)話(huà)對(duì)象點(diǎn)頭、微笑,暗示自己正在喝他/她說(shuō)話(huà)。也可以適當(dāng)?shù)靥峒白约旱男枨螅缧枰撤N幫助,友好善良的人通常不會(huì)在他人需要幫助時(shí)置若罔聞。
此原則適用的場(chǎng)景和開(kāi)場(chǎng)白(opener)如下:
天氣很好
Man, the weather is really good today. Do you work around here?
地鐵很擠
Man, it's so crowded today. Do you take this route often?
在看球賽
This is a good game. Who are you rooting for?
附近正發(fā)生一件有趣的事情
Wow, did you see that? What is he doing?
看到這么多“花式”開(kāi)場(chǎng)白,你是不是躍躍欲試了?那么,深呼一口氣,露出燦爛的笑容,自信地去和老外搭訕吧。