【標題】“猴子”怎么變紳士

【內容提要】學校教育怎么把調皮的“猴子”變成紳士？你聽說過怎么把大象放進冰箱嗎？答案是只需要三步：開門，放進大象，關門。這一切只有在你相信的前提下才會成真。我是黛西，由于我相信“境遇”（簡書的編輯大人，為了避免涉嫌廣告，這是我編的名字）小學，兩年后，我發現原本腦子里有及時行樂猴，自控力超級差，而且手眼不協調，經常摔倒的湯姆，在學校的興趣課程以及“八禮”的熏陶下，變成了一個不怎么摔跤的小足球運動員，有很好的自控力以及獨立思考能力。這是魔法嗎？不，這是愛。

【鳴謝】承蒙Quankeer、Eva及同學的大力指點和大刀闊斧的修改，本文才得以成型。亦感謝“境遇”小學給我提供機會作這次分享，這是我第一次作英文演講。當晚在Unique俱樂部就此內容又作了脫稿演講。非常榮幸地得到Randy的精細點評。

How to Change the “Monkey” to a Gentleman

Have you ever heard the following question: How to put an elephant into a? fridge?

The?answer is: 1. Open thedoor；2. Put the elephant in；3. Close the door.

Obviously,?there is a precondition for this solution: the thing wouldn’t come true unless you believe it.

I am Daisy, mother of a nine-year-old boy, Tom. When Tom went to Jinyu Primary School two years ago, there was a?Carpe Diem monkey?lived in his smart brain. Then he had terrible self-control, always enjoyed the pleasure here and now. Even worse was that his body is not harmonious,? you know,? terrible hand-eye co-ordination. He often fell over and walked unsteady, like drunk. He is more like a monkey than my son, not to mention to become a gentleman.

In Jinyu Primary School, there are many?interest courses offered after school, as quality education, including arts, chess, football, dance,?etc. There are also lots of measures for children to?learn social rites. For example, there are?8 rites be emphasized in the school, ?including say hello, and say goodbye, and follow relevant courtesy when in playground, dining?room, or classroom; at the same time, teachers instruct them to express themselves naturallyand gracefully.

So, because I choose to believe Jinyu Primary School, two years later, I found?that Tom had become a little football?player, seldom falling over. He got familiar with Gareth Bale. He also has good self-control and independent thinking.?When we talked about a book named?The Martian, he told me to?be careful because there are many dirty words in this novel.

Wow, maybe it’s time for him to know more about Shakespeare or HarryPotter. Above all he is already like a gentleman.

How?to change the“monkey” to a gentleman? First to believe, come to Jinyu Primary School, step by step, it comes ture. It is not magic, it’s love.

【后記】這篇文章為什么會這么寫？基于三個原因：1.對象；2.內容；3.用途。

首先說對象。對象有學校的部分師生和家長。同時有英國威爾士地區的幾位校長。所以在選材上就用了一些英國特別是威爾士的元素。比如提到了球星貝爾、莎士比亞和哈利波特。

重點說內容。分享哪幾方面的內容預先有個大致的規劃，當然不是特別有心機的那種規劃，是根據活動的要求，確定了要分享成長故事、辦學理念、對校際交流的看法和期待等等。對應寒冰童鞋的這篇，很顯然是講的辦學理念這一塊的內容。“境遇”本身是公辦學校，不能做得天馬行空，在框架內中規中矩的同時做出特色，我覺得他們還是很盡心盡力的。就結合自己孩子的成長講了這一塊。

再說基于用途我作了哪些處理。因為是一個會場的分享，自己又是個英語演講菜鳥，所以里面統統不用大詞，免得自己舌頭就絆住了。我自己的英語水平非常詭異但并不特殊，就是所謂啞巴英語。最近半年看見小伙伴們說得很溜，自己也想開口，試了很多次都開不了口。最近讀了將近倆月的新概念2，正在好像有點感覺的時候，突然接到這個任務，就吭哧吭哧開始準備了。

根據用途也著重考慮了結構化的敘事方式。先用一個腦筋急轉彎開頭，引出自己家孩子的成長困惑，點出學校采取的措施里對他極其有利的兩個方面——身體和禮節。同時也是學校的特色和亮點。這個敘事結構也容易記憶，不容易脫線，有利于做脫稿。雖然我其實還是會忘，準備時間足夠的話應該還是可以的。

其它的如真實，也是準備稿子時我比較看重的方面。為了效果瞎掰一下應該也沒什么，只是不是我的風格。而且我的生活說來也很神奇，明明我認為稀松平常，習以為常的事情，會有人覺得光怪陸離，許多事實話實說，不用渲染，反而有時候顯得夸張。

幽默也是我想要的，雖然不一定每次都會奏效，存著這個心，不勉強就是了。畢竟基于價值的觀點表達才是最有效的。

列位看官，教子系列分享如有共鳴，謝請發言討論，還可喜歡還可以打賞還可以轉發，還可關注哦。共勉~