2017.7.25

Words and Phrases

So they pool those desires.

pool:動詞,共用，聚攏（資金、知識、設備等） If a group of people or organizations pool their money, knowledge, or equipment, they share it or put it together so that it can be used for a particular purpose.看到pool時，立馬想到的是水池，swimming pool, 沒想到還可以用作動詞，好新奇。pool本義為池子，那就聚集東西，聯想為聚攏，共用

e.g. We must do our utmost to pool ideas and information to make a sound plan.

All that did was to exacerbate the problem.

exacerbate:(formal) to make sth worse, especially a disease or problem使惡化；使加?。皇辜又?/p>

e.g. Air populltion exacerbeted the environmental problem.

Both were initially acting in good faith.

in good faith:誠心誠意，真誠地

e.g. We have to act in good faith, so we are able to achieve win/win.

Buddhism calls this "the middle way".

the middle way: 中庸之道

e.g.The middle way does not mean to compromise, but to seek to a third alternative.

Thoughts

看到那個丈夫準備好去度假釣魚而妻子則希望回去看望母親的例子，挺有感觸的，因為生活這樣的例子比比皆是。大家都有了自己計劃，然后發現大家在背道而馳，最后總是有一個人在妥協，委屈自己，變成了win/lose。但這樣已經破壞了美好的氛圍，得到成全的人心里背負負罪感，委屈自己的人也不舒心，變成兩敗俱傷了。然后作者提出the third alternative第三選擇，彼此之間put themselves in other's shoes , think win/win, seek first to understand, 不要妥協，這樣的效果則是一百八十度大轉變，彼此能明白對方的熱切需求，彼此都能理解對方的處境，最后能夠更加友好易于接受的解決問題，切合"the middle way"中庸之道。

Valuing the differences, 很贊成這個觀點，與"我有一個蘋果，你有一個蘋果，我們倆交換，還是彼此只有一個蘋果；但如果我有一種思想，你有一種思想，我們交換，我們就有了兩種思想"有所契合。擁抱不同的觀點，才會有思想的碰撞，才會看得開闊高遠。