“泡司令最近接到讀者來信:
我碩士畢業,目前月入過萬;老婆專科畢業懷孕后就停止了工作,因為眼界不同所以平時沒什么話講。她屬于那種很公主病的脾氣,作又懶。也沒什么朋友因為脾氣太壞?!?/p>
“我大學時候認識她,她對我窮追不舍,可是當時我喜歡我們班上的一個姑娘,我沒有勇氣去表白,覺得自己農村來的高攀不上…最后經不住現在的老婆的追求就半推半就的答應在一起了。但是我真的不喜歡她。”
“結果在一起沒半年,她就懷孕了,哭著要生。我說我都沒畢業你要是想小孩出來都沒住的地方那就生吧!我不管了。她才作罷”
“我現在工作穩定了,她馬上又懷孕。我們便奉子成婚,現在她懷孕八個月。我們甚至連婚禮都沒辦。很多同學都不知道我結婚了,我的初戀也不知道?!?/p>
“之后一次同學聚會,我又遇見了我的初戀。聚會后我主動聯系了她,知道她并沒有嫁人,之后也沒說別的了。結果我的老婆應該是看了我手機的短信,直接打電話過去罵我的初戀,用非常不堪的話去侮辱別人。我很生氣,于是自己跑到外面去住沒有回家?!?/p>
“結果她打電話給我的單位到處宣揚說我住小三家里去,我現在很頹廢,覺得什么都沒有意義了,泡司令,我該怎么辦?”
作為中國情感管理權威機構,泡司令,給出以下點評:
首先,事情發展到如此地步。泡司令還是想說一句,自己作的死,還是要還的。
如果當初你不那么軟弱,堅決一點,拒絕你老婆的追求。那么還會有今天這些事嗎?
又或者你勇敢一點,追求了你的初戀,結局還會是這樣嗎?
可是,人生沒有如果,事情已經發生,我們能做的就是好好的補救。
不管你和你妻子之間,在一起有多少錯誤,多么不合適,起碼肚子里的孩子是無辜的。
孩子現在八個月,已經成型,是一條小生命。你們犯的錯,不要讓孩子來買單!
現在作為一個男人,你應該勇敢的站出來,先安撫你妻子的情緒,把孩子生下來。之后的事情之后再慢慢解決!
那么泡司令今天就先教你5招,來平復你老婆不安的情緒。
1向老婆虔誠認錯
你的老婆現在處于非常不安的情緒里,孕期的女人本來就很敏感。所以在這種時候,男人要拿得起放得下!低頭認個錯沒什么大不了的,自尊心應該分時候分地點體現,總之呢絕不是現在!為了肚子里的寶寶,給老婆認個錯,讓她說幾句。
2安撫老婆情緒
認完錯以后就要好好的用言語去安撫她,女人嘛就是靠哄的。哄了才能好,這時候和老婆進行深層次的交談,或者柔聲在她耳邊說一些情話,都可以起到安撫的作用。
3主動干家務
最簡單的小事,往往能打動人心。干家務活這種最小不過的事了,在老婆眼里卻會覺得你是真的關心她,關心這個家,從而感受到溫暖。
4看育兒方面書籍,購買嬰兒用品
老婆現在懷孕八個月,你可以選擇購入一些育兒的相關書籍,和母嬰用品。然后和老婆一起查看相關的書籍,增加交流,也讓老婆覺得你非常關心寶寶。
5多陪老婆散步
懷孕的女子在家是非常煩悶的,一邊還要操心家務事,但是出行又怕不安全。這時候男人若是能抽出時間多帶老婆出去逛逛,老婆會無比的開心。
不管夫妻之間有多少誤會、隔閡,在你選擇了對方結為夫婦的那一天,那么男人該擔起的責任,你就必須去擔起!即使像你說的,你和老婆并沒有什么感情,奉子成婚;泡司令還是希望你能像個男人一樣去解決這些問題!
清官難斷家務事,但是泡司令只知道作為一個男人,什么是該做的,什么是不該做的!
希望你也能走出頹廢的狀態,擁抱更好的明天。
中國情感管理權威機構,泡司令,及時提供你心靈最痛處的解藥!
來吧朋友,關注微信公眾號“泡司令”,讓你幸福又性福!
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