Chapter 1
Words
1.resilience /r??z?li?ns/
we plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events.
noun [uncountable] the ability to become strong, happy, or successful again after a difficult situation or event
?造句：The strong resilience can help us overcome difficulties
2.stunt [st?nt]
Three P's can stunt recovery
verb [transitive]to stop something or someone from growing to their full size or developing
properly:
? 例：Lack of sunlight will stunt the
plant’s growth.
造句：Traditional education system stunted our creativity.
3.subside/s?b?sa?d/
Most of the people I knew who had lived through tragedy said that over time the sadness subsides.
if a feeling, pain, sound etc subsides, it gradually becomes less and then
stops
?同義：die down:
例：The pains in his head had subsided, but he still felt dizzy and sick
造句：The rainstorm had subsided by noon.
4.consume
Even being aware of all my blessings, I was still consumed by the pain.
literary if a feeling or idea consumes you, it ?affects you very strongly, so that you cannot think about anything else
be consumed by/with 熟詞生義 下文中出現的engulf 意思相近 sadness engulfed me
例： I was consumed with curiosity about my new neighbour.
造句：I was consumed by sadness after broke up with my ex-boyfriend.
5.gang up
All three P's ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce.
if people gang up on someone, they join together to attack, criticize, or oppose them, especially in a way that seems unfair:結伙，拉幫結派對付
例：Schoolchildren are quick to gang up on anyone who looks or behaves differently.
造句：She complained that all the colleagues ganged up on her.
Thoughts
想哭就哭，想笑就笑。當悲傷越是壓抑的時候，越要懂得釋放自己。難怪當年那首《男人哭吧哭吧不是罪》那么紅，一定是唱出了很多男士的心聲。
回想起來我最刻骨銘心的一段經歷是一次背叛的失戀，當我確認我被一個自己付出所有心思的人欺騙的時候，整個世界都崩塌了。似乎每天除了沉浸在悲傷里，就只剩哭泣了。所以那時候的我最喜歡的就是睡覺，因為這樣就可以逃避到另一個不被悲傷侵蝕的世界里。可是有時候我卻還是會在夢里哭著醒來。
當時的我總是想我哪里做錯了，你要這樣對我？以為世界真的從此變得暗淡，以為再也不會有日出。這不是就那三個阻擋我們走出黑暗的3P么（Personalization, Pervasiveness,Permanence）
也不知道是什么時候開始眼淚漸漸被擦干，世界也開始變得明亮了起來。（現在回想應該不超過半個月吧）所以我有strong resilience。
還是那句話：時間是治愈傷口最好的良藥。當然，你也要敞開胸懷讓時間來治愈你。
