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Stop Doubting Yourself

不要懷疑自己

If you don't believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all you're doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, you'll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己不相信自己，那沒(méi)人會(huì)相信你。成功始于你的頭腦，如果你所做的是不斷地看遍自己，預(yù)言著未來(lái)的失敗，這就真的會(huì)成為現(xiàn)實(shí)。與其懷疑自己，不如積極的考慮問(wèn)題。不僅會(huì)讓自己更加開(kāi)心和成功，你還能夠感染到周?chē)娜恕?/p>

Stop Being Negative

不要消極

Now that you're done doubting yourself, stop doubting others. You don't like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel--even if you have good intentions, people don't like hearing negativity.

現(xiàn)在你不要再懷疑自己了，也別再懷疑身邊的人。你不希望被人對(duì)你挑剔，那么也不要再去挑剔身邊的人。想想你給別人帶來(lái)的什么樣的感受吧——即使出發(fā)點(diǎn)是好的，別人也不想聽(tīng)到那么多消極的事情呀。

Stop Being Mean

不要那么刻薄

It's completely possible to step on someone's toes without meaning to--it happens all the time. There's no need topile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop being mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There's no need to seek vengeance unless that's the type of person you want to be.

無(wú)意踩到別人的情況真的有可能會(huì)發(fā)生——常常會(huì)發(fā)生。但沒(méi)必要去處心積慮地做一些不好的事情，所以要有意識(shí)地讓自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人對(duì)你無(wú)理地對(duì)待，隨他們?nèi)ズ昧恕](méi)必要去報(bào)復(fù)，除非你也想成為那一類(lèi)的人。

Stop Wasting Time

不要再浪費(fèi)時(shí)間

I've said it before, and I'll say it again:time is the most valuable resource we have. Don't waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the world's dark corners, that's great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don't hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long- termgoals.

雖然之前說(shuō)過(guò)了，但我還想再說(shuō)一遍：時(shí)間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源，不要把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在沒(méi)有意義的事情上面，如果你想探索這個(gè)世界的黑暗角落，很好。我也認(rèn)識(shí)一些沒(méi)喲固定工作的一些自由職業(yè)者，但我不會(huì)以犧牲自己的短期長(zhǎng)期目標(biāo)為代價(jià)和他們出去玩樂(lè)。

Stop Making Promises

別再做承諾

Always under-promise and over-deliver. When you make a promise, you're adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often than not, your promise is an absolute (i.e. "I promise I'll always love you"), and only Sith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply bethere when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.

總是做承諾，總是做不到。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己添了責(zé)任，無(wú)論你的出發(fā)點(diǎn)有多好，你都不可能完成所有的部分。大部分時(shí)候，你的承諾都太過(guò)絕對(duì)（比如“我發(fā)誓我永遠(yuǎn)愛(ài)你”），也只能在絕對(duì)環(huán)境中才能實(shí)現(xiàn)。與其用語(yǔ)言許下承諾，不如在別人需要你的時(shí)候出現(xiàn)，然后用行動(dòng)達(dá)到他們的期望吧。

Stop Taking Everything Personally

別把每件事太往心里去

People get offended about the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamar's now-infamous verse on "Control" this summer: be called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he's better than (and he's right). The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response.

The thins is, all K-Dot said is he's the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that's exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you're easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人們會(huì)因?yàn)橐恍┢婀值氖虑楦械奖磺址浮＞湍肒endrick Lamar這個(gè)夏天備受爭(zhēng)議的歌曲《Control》為例：他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認(rèn)為比他弱的說(shuō)唱歌手(的確是這樣)，一石激起千層浪，整個(gè)說(shuō)唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作為回?fù)簟?/p>

重點(diǎn)在于，所有的人都認(rèn)為自己是最好的說(shuō)唱者，每個(gè)人都更看重自己，這就是他的目的所在。這件事交給我們的無(wú)非就是不是所有的事情都要圍著你轉(zhuǎn)，如果你是玻璃心，有人會(huì)利用這一點(diǎn)。

Just Stop, and Breathe

停一下，深呼吸吧

No matter what you're doing in life or how your day is going, there's always room to just stop for a moment and just breathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you're doing wrong.

無(wú)論你現(xiàn)在在干什么，這一天過(guò)得怎么樣，你都需要好好停一下深呼吸。不如現(xiàn)在就歇一歇，犒賞自己總算挺過(guò)了一些錯(cuò)事。